It’s funny isn’t it? How we can yearn for silence and solitude in this noisy, people filled world and yet when we are given just that some of us feel threatened. We don’t know exactly what we are afraid of we just know we are afraid.
This week I was speaking on Skype to New Zealand to a woman who is a serial monogamist, one partner after another with hardly any time in between to reset her own priorities. She finally rang me because she had a panic attack at the airport after the plane that was taking her daughters family to Australia left.
Yes, finally after months of preparations, weeks of them staying with her in preparation to emigrate to Australia she was in silence. A silence that hung over her like a cloud of doom even before she could get into her car to drive home to her empty house.
What made things much worse is that this lovely soul was also between partners at the moment, so she truly felt lost and alone and the dread of being alone put her into a full panic.
Why? Why do some of us dread alone time? Why do grown people who know there are no monsters under our beds feel such fear about being alone in an empty house? I have seen this a lot in my life.
Oriah in her original poem ‘The Invitation’ asks the same question:
“It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”
This is just how pervasive this question is?
Being alone means we have no way to distract ourselves from our thoughts, no way to cover the mirror that shows us so starkly who we really are, no way to mask the emotions we have been keeping at bay, and no way to allow the deep stillness to invade our souls and open us up to all that we have been hiding from.
The answer my lovelies, is to allow. Please spend the time allowing all the monsters you are so afraid of to come into the light, get to know them intimately, befriend them and learn to love them. I promise this is the most healing thing you can do for yourself because as you connect, engage and learn more about your monsters you will find that they just need to be acknowledged and loved to turn into powerful allies you didn’t even know you had.
The source of our greatest power, is the very things we hide from. Those emotions, thoughts and memories we are hiding from are in fact our shadow side, the unacknowledged moments we believe we are too weak to deal with that when brought into the light are actually the source of our greatest learnings and biggest shifts, they then become our friends and form the basis of a new way of living and being in the world that guide us along different and more powerful paths to our future.
Instead of wandering around and around the same well trodden paths that lead us no-where, we will find ourselves on newer, fresher journeys filled with new adventures and new learnings, more motivated and emPOWERED than we have ever felt before. A new joy-filled energy will see us choosing new friends and loving the silence and solitude so much that we seek it every day just to reconnect with the most important person in our lived – ourselves!
This is the very first step in your evolYOUtion – take it today. I promise once you have allowed what is and was to just be, allowed your fears to settle and diminish and made friends with yourself and your past – magic will happen!